This post has been quite some time in the making. I just get so angry and upset every time I read something or start writing. But here it goes (there will be a follow up on this which was written whilst somewhat intoxicated I just have to edit it somewhat first, think there might have been more swear words than actual text, but shows just how strongly I feel about this).
Few things make me angry, frustrated, sad and pissed off to the very core of my being as anti abortion and the fact that abortions are illegal and that there are people in the world that believe that abortions should never take place. The idea to me of living in a country where abortion was not a possibility would fill me with fear, and I would most certainly be a very active lobbyist.
Few things make me angry, frustrated, sad and pissed off to the very core of my being as anti abortion and the fact that abortions are illegal and that there are people in the world that believe that abortions should never take place. The idea to me of living in a country where abortion was not a possibility would fill me with fear, and I would most certainly be a very active lobbyist.
There's three aspects of anti abortion ideology that gets to me. Firstly, I cannot understand how people can have such strong views on the life and actions of whats happening with someone else's body; secondly, that societies and the legislature think it's acceptable to legislate about my body, and subsequently removing my ability to make decisions about my body; and thirdly men with views on abortion, seriously wtaf, just shhh.
Let's start with the third one. As man you have a choice of walking away from the consequences of your actions in the case of a pregnancy. You have a super simply, easy breezy choice to just say 'nah don't want that shit, don't need that shit, can't deal with that shit' and simply walk away and that would be all. Women do not have that choice. Becoming pregnant is a two person job; dealing with the consequences (regardless of decision to follow through or not with the pregnancy) falls entirely on just one of those two people. And as a man you have absolutely no way of relating to what happens, you can in no way relate to hormonal surges that leave you completely fucked over by your own inexplicable emotions, to boobs so sore you can't walk without being in pain, to the tiredness, the aches, the pains, the fact that there is a life form forming inside of you and living off you, not to mention the process of getting the thing out. And I'm sorry but on the topic of pregnancy and abortion, your views are secondary and you should only be saying 'whatever she says'.
The second and third issue about people in general and society as whole and the legislature getting involved frankly is beyond me. What is being asked of women when abortions are denied is a horrendous intrusion of women's human rights. It is giving politicians and activists the power over something that will never concern them personally. How can you so vehemently oppose me doing something that a) has no impact on your life what so ever and b) would ensure my physical and mental well-being isn't jeopardized, not to mention would change my entire life forever. How people can have such abnormally strong feelings about something growing inside of me that you feel that it requires statute to protect is beyond me.
You are basically are saying that you and the state should have a greater power to decide over my body and what's growing inside of me (and not only growing inside of me but dependent on me for survival) than I do.
People who argue that as soon as there is a heartbeat or a nervous system or whatever attribute you want to give the fetus, there is a human life capable of protection by the law contrary to the wishes of the person that that fetus is dependent on for survival, frankly baffles me because it's an argument completely detached from reality. If you could take a fetus out of me and stick it in somewhere else and it develops and becomes a human and is raised by someone else then sure that argument has some weight. If that was the case then sure you could argue that I am by choice terminating something that could become a child without any regard for the impact on me them woman/mother as a person. But that's not how it works.
What these people also seem to be missing the point on is that denying me an abortion doesn't save the fetus or the child. I could go on and take heroin everyday for the rest of the pregnancy leaving the child completely disfigured, I could go on and neglect and abuse that child. Making it illegal for me to abort the fetus changes nothing. People who compare abortions to killing babies fundamentally do not understand the difference about a fetus growing inside a woman and a random kid on the street.
I think these two articles very much shows the importance of letting the decision to give up your body and creating a child should in all and every instance be entirely up to the woman in question and no one else, any thing but it just horrific.
People who argue that as soon as there is a heartbeat or a nervous system or whatever attribute you want to give the fetus, there is a human life capable of protection by the law contrary to the wishes of the person that that fetus is dependent on for survival, frankly baffles me because it's an argument completely detached from reality. If you could take a fetus out of me and stick it in somewhere else and it develops and becomes a human and is raised by someone else then sure that argument has some weight. If that was the case then sure you could argue that I am by choice terminating something that could become a child without any regard for the impact on me them woman/mother as a person. But that's not how it works.
This is how it works: Two people have sex, one of them becomes pregnant, cells starts multiplying inside of that body having a physical and mental impact on that person over and above what any non pregnant person can imagine. Those cells then require 9 months to fully form into a baby. The woman then has to go through a life threatening physical trauma for that baby to exit her body. Then there is a child in the world that is entirely dependent on a capable adult for survival. So the argument about a fetus being a human protectable by law, independently from the woman it's growing inside of, the second a sperm hits an egg is entirely void of the notion that
a) it cannot ever be detached and survive from that specific woman required for it to exist in the first place
b) a potentially life threatening and most certainly physically altering child birth by that woman is required and
c) someone needs to look after the damn thing when it comes out or it will die in matter of hours/days
I think these two articles very much shows the importance of letting the decision to give up your body and creating a child should in all and every instance be entirely up to the woman in question and no one else, any thing but it just horrific.
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